http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/ whatihavetosay ja http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index2_0 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=14 Inordertohave'more'ofanything(oreverything)weneedtostretchourboundariesandourimagination.IinviteyoutoadoptAbundanceratherthanProsperityasanidea,asthisalignsyouwiththepossibilityofhavingsomuchmore.WhenyouembraceandunderstandAbundanceasinclusiveofprosperity,having'more'meanshavingmorefinancialfreedom,greaterwellbeing,relationshipsthatenhanceyourlife,andabundantopportunitiesforexpandingyourjoyfulexpression.SobeginbyhonouringtheAbundancethatisalwaysreadilyavailabletoyou-yourbreath.It'sfree,andlife-giving.ThebreathinfusesuswithLifeandcreatesanabundantflowasalife-givingstream.Withawareness,weareabletodrawmorefromthebreathand,therefore,morefromourlives.SoIsuggestyounowtakeafewslowbreathsasthiswillassistyoutoassimilatethisbiggerideaandanchoritdeeplyinyourBeing.Infusingnewinformationmoredeeplyintoyourconsciousnessviathebreathallowsyoutoholditmoredeeply.Asyouinhale,youenlivenallyourcellswhichexpandsyourcapacitytothink.So-breathe,infuse,allow,use.Thentakea'wide-anglelens'viewofAbundance.Thismeansspeakingtoyourinner-knowingtosupportyoutoarriveatyourunderstandingofAbundancewhichthenpavesthewayforyoutoenjoyincreasinglygreaterAbundanceineveryareaofyourlife.Abundanceisthestageofintegralwholenesswherewearesatiatedwithourowndelight.Itisthestageinourevolutionashumanbeingswherelifeceasestobeaboutexternalcreation,andisaboutinternalrapture-existinginanincreasinglyspaciouscontainerwherewecreateworlds,withinandwithout,thatdeeplynourishourspiritandmakeourheartssing;wherewelivegloriouslywithourselvesandothers.WeareAbundant.Abundanceisnotsomuchaboutwhatwehave,butwhatweareandhowwefeel.Whenwelivein'whatisrightwithmeandmyworld'andnot'whatiswrongwithmeandmyworld',wearebeginningtoawakentothispossibility.Appreciationfor,ratherthanberatingagainst,isanessentialstateofbeingweneedtoarriveat.Eventhetimesthatarechallengingaregiftsthatweareabletoharvestasgreatlearninginordertogiftourselveswith'more'Abundance.BeingawaketothiscoreknowingistheessenceofAbundance.So,whatdoesallthismean?Whenwerecognise-orarewillingtoapproachthepossibility-thatweareinfinite,notasanoft-repeatedhypotheticalor'spiritual'ideathathaslostitsmeaning,butinaverypracticalanddemonstrableway,weknow'Iamthesourceofmyexperience'.Translated,thismeansthatasIaccessmyjoyandinspirationcontinuouslyinthepresent,IcreatemyAbundantNowandmyAbundantFuture.Takingfullresponsibilityforwhereyouplaceyourattentionisaskillthatiseasytodevelop.Beingwillingtonoticetheeffectofyourthoughts,isthekeyhere.Youmayliketoexperimentwiththisfor5minuteseachaday.Justtakethetimetonoticewhereyouareplacingyourattention-whatyouarethinkingabout-andyouwillbecomeawareofhowyou'refeeling:whetheryouarefeelingincreasinglyvibrant,orwhetheryou'refeelingdepleted.Youwillthenrealisehowmuchyoumaybekeepingyourselfrestrained,tiedtostruggleofyourownmaking.Thisiswherethemagichappens:younowhavetheopportunitytoplaythegameofincreasingyourAbundance,simplybychangingwhereyouplaceyourattention.Remember:Youareyourgreatestasset.Reallyknowthat.CultivatingawondrousanddeeplyappreciativerelationshipwithyourselfisthevehiclethatcarriesyouforwardtowardsyourAbundance.Whenyouarefilledwiththejoyofexploring'you'inever-deeperways,youcreateripplesthatturntowavesofgloriousdelight,Cultivatingarelationshipwithyourselfthatisfoundedon'innerseeing'andreflection,holdingyourselfwithgentlenessasyouplantseedsofnewpossibilities,andbeingexcitedbytheburgeoningpossibilitiesandthejoythatunfolds,createstheflowofAbundance.Abundanceisaflowofnewinspiration.Newinspirationnourishesourimagination,andsetsourboundariesfree.Themoreboundarieswedissolve,themorerestrictionsweletgoof,themorewebegintostandinourself-determinedfreedom.Inthiswayweigniteourincreasingpassion,whichcreateswonderandthisfeedsourgenius.Livinginourgenius,ratherthanour'average'and'goodenough',isthelaunchingpadfromwhichweestablishAbundanceasalivingreality.ItisonlywhenwefeelBIG,brimmingoverwithourself-generatedjoy,deeplynourishedfromtheinside,andstandinginournowandofferingthisasourgifttoourselves,ourworld,ourfamiliesandourfriends,that-finally-Abundancewillflowoutwardandinwardinever-increasingpossibilities.ThewondrousstateofAbundanceisaninternallygeneratedstateofcelebrationthatflowsasariverinitsfullness(fromyou)towardsLife.Thisimprintoffullness,inspirationandjoyisinscribedanddescribedwithinyourbeing,andimprintedexternally.Theactioncompletesitself-Lifecompletesthisaction-andyoureceiveAbundanceasarealisedstateoflivingwhereyouareamplyrewarded.Abundanceisnowtheflowofgivingandreceiving,fromwithinandwithout,thatwecontinuouslyexchange.Abundanceisexperiencedasastateofdeepnourishment.Thereisarisingheart-swellthatembracesallinitsvastnessandyouare'more'and'more'isyours.Sharethis'more'andfeeltheswellofAbundance.Pureethefleshof2mangoes(about2cups),stir1teaspoonofbakingpowderinto225g(2cups)almondmeal,andgentlybeatfiveeggsinabowl.Combineallingredients,pourintoagreasedcaketinandbakeforabout1hourat180oC.Cool10minutesbeforeturningout.ItismyexperiencethatthemoreIjoyouslyshare,themoreflowsbacktome.So,Iofferyouthisdivinerecipethatafriendoffer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2007-11-16 16:21:32 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=14 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=14#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=13 Thinkpositive!Theyear'snothalfover,there'sstillhalftogo.ThatiswhenitcomestoPhotographyEventsandFestivals.Atleastonceayear,allacrossthecountry,smalltownAmericacomestogethertoshowtheirspiritbyholdingfamily-friendlyfestivals.Theseeventsaregenerallyheldonaweekendandfeaturelocalart,musicandculture.Andthentherearetheweeklongfunctions,suchastheYamhillFairandRodeo,whichisheldSundaytoSundayinMcMinville,runescapegoldrunescapegoldOregon.NotonlywillyouFINDlocalartandculturalhere,butyou'llwanttohaveyourcamerahandyforthoseawesomerodeoridersandprizewinningflowerentries.ButthePhotographyEventsI'mgoingtoacquaintyouwithnowaretheonesheldinmetropolitanareasthroughouttheworld.runescapegoldrunescapegoldThesefunctionsdrawbothlocalandinternationallyacclaimedartists.Thereareseveralwellknowneventsplannedforthesecondhalfof2007.SomeofthesefestivalsarebeingheldinvariouscitiesthroughouttheUnitedStates,oneinCanadaandtwoinFrance.rsgoldIfyou'vedreamedofcombiningavacationwithyourloveofphotography,thismaybeyourchancetodojustthat.Chooseadestination,packyoursuitcasesandcamerabagsandheadoutfortheexperienceofaphotographerslifetime.FirstonthecalendaristheLesRencontresD'ArlesPhotographieheldinFrance.Althoughthishasalreadybegun,rsgoldrsgolditrunsuntilSeptember16.Ifyouarefortunateenoughtotraveltothisphenomenalshow,youwillencounter50magnificentexpositions.NextonourcalendaristheFotoSeptiembreUSA,heldeveryyearSeptember1-30inSanAntonioandotherTexascities.powerlevelingpowerlevelingThisisanInternationalPhotographyFestivalwhichisapopulardestinationforbothartistsandphotographyenthusiasts.Notonlydotheyprovideaforumwhichallowsartisttoexhibittheircraft,buttheyalsooperatethroughawebsiteandpublication.Thisprovidesexhibitors,sponsorsandadvertiserstheadditionalvaluablesupportofinternetexposure.NextweheadnorthtoourCanadianneighborsinMontreal.TheLeMoisdelaPhotohasbeenheldeveryyearsinceitsinceptionin1989tocelebratethe150Thanniversaryofphotography.powerlevelingpowerlevelingItisdedicatedtoFineArtPhotographyandwillfeature30exhibitsingalleriesandmuseumsthroughoutthecity.Thegoalofthiseventhasalwaysbeentoeducatethegeneralpublicaboutphotographyasanartform.powerlevelingThisyear'sguestcuratorwillbearthistorianMarieFraserwhosethemewillbeTheNarrativityofTheImage,whichshouldprovetobeacaptivatingtopic.Nextwe'reheadedsouthtoGeorgiaforAtlantaCelebratesPhotography,ACP9,heldinOctober.powerlevelingpowerlevelingThisisacitywidefestivalwhichisinits9Thyear.Ithasartexhibitsindiverselocationsthroughoutthecity.Youwillenjoylecturesbyinternationalandlocalartists,apushpinshow,powerlevelingafilmseriesandthepublicartprogram.OntoTheBigAppleandthePhotoPlusInternationalConference+Expo2007beingpresentedOctober18-20.powerlevelingpowerlevelingThisisbeingcalledthepremiereventforforward-lookingimagingsolutionsandphotographiceducation.Italsopromisestobringleaders,pioneers,andrisingnewstarstogetherforunprecedentednetworkingevents.ParisPhotowhichisconsideredbymanytobetheleadingfairforstillphotographywillbeheldthisyearonNovember15-18.Itwillofferphotoenthusiastssome100galleriesandpublishersfromallovertheworld.wowaccountwowaccountsInadditiontotheexhibits,therewillbebooksignings,prizeawardceremoniesandlectures.WhatcouldbebetterthantobeintheCityofLightswithyourcameraandotherphotographicdevotees.WewrapuptheyearinFloridaatthePhotoMiamischeduledforDecember5-9.ThisInternationalContemporaryArtFairwillbeheldintheWynwoodArtDistrictofMiami.nikeshoesjordanshoesItfocusesonPhoto-basedart,videoandnewmedia.AnyoneofthesePhotographyFestivalswouldbeaonce-in-a-lifetimetripwhetheryou'reahobbyphotographerorphotographforliving.OilpaintingDustoffyouyourcamerabagsandhittheroad.RELATEDLINKS:http://dshowgirl.hollywood-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.phoenix-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.line-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.gb-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.dreams-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.weblog-host.com/http://dshowgirl.yahoo-host.com/http://dshowgirl.msn-host.com/http://dshowgirl.google-host.com/http://dshowgirl.zero-host.com/http://dshowgirl.money-host.com/http://san1.gotfamiliesonline.com/control-panel/events/1http://dshowgirl.exclusive-host.com/http://san.gotfamiliesonline.com/control-panel/event-addedhttp://dshowgirl.bbs-host.com/http://dshowgirl.genius-host.com/http://www.freewebs.com/dshowgirl/someadviceaboutlife.htmhttp://dshowgirl.bigblogzoo.com/http://www.bahraichblogs.com/dshowgirl/http://www.bloggeo.org/dshowgirl/http://blogpirates.com/blog/index.php?user=dshowgirlhttp://bloggercrab.com/blogs/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.bloggles.info/http://dshowgirl.outblogger.com/http://dshowgirl.blogsarena.com/http://www.blogmyway.org/?w=dshowgirlhttp://www.bloglegion.com/dshowgirl/http://blogsofroleplay.com/http://anyonesblog.com/wp-newblog.phphttp://blogsharing.com/?p=1#comment-1956http://dshowgirl.blogstream.com/http://dshowgirl.iblog365.com/http://www.egoweblog.com/admin.phphttp://dshowgirl.efx2.com/http://www.bloty.com/users/dshowgirlhttp://www.electricdiary.com/diarybrowser.aspx?DiaryID=2559&sEntry=7/18/2007&eEntry=7/18/2007http://ez7.com/dshowgirl/htt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2007-11-16 16:20:22 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=13 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=13#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=12 You’vefinallymadethedecisiontoadoptacat,you’vedreamtaboutitforquitesometime.Visualizingyourcutenewlittlekittenplayingaroundthefloorandlookingupatyouwiththosebigbabyblues.worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingWhatcouldpossiblygowrong,afterallit’sonlyatinykitten.Buthaveyourreallythoughtabouthowmuchtime,effortandtroubleakittenreallyis.Akittenispackedfullofenergyandcuriosityandwillcryforattention,scratchthefurniture,biteandurinateeverywhereuntilitislitterboxtrained,andwillrunaroundthehousegettingintoallsortsofscrapesandtrouble.Andit’suptoyoutolookafterthem24/7.worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingIfyou’vegotthetimeanddedicationtolookafterakitten,great,butifnot,whynotthinkaboutadoptinganadultcat.Alotofpotentialadoptersseemtothinkofanadultcatassecondbest,asiftheyaredefectiveorwornoutlikeasecondhandcar.That’sjustnotthecase.Mostadultcatshavefoundthemselvesinanimalsheltersfromnofaultoftheirown.Theymayhaveoutlivedtheirowner,theirownersmayhavemovedtosomewherethatdoesn’tallowpets,becomelostorsomeoneinthefamilymayhavebecomeallergictothem.worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingThereasonsarefartonumeroustolistthemall.Thecatsthemselvesareperfectlyhealthyanimals,bristlingwithfunandenergyandsimplylookingforacaringlovinghome.Adoptinganadultcathasmanyadvantages.Rememberanoldercathasalreadydevelopeditspersonality.Soyouwillknowwhatkindofpettheywillbeandwhetherornottheywillsuityourfamily.worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingManypeoplegoforthecutelittlekitten;onlytofindoutthattheygrowintoaveryshyandnon-playfulcatthatlikestospendallit’stimeawayfromthefamily.That’sfineifthat’swhatyouwant,buttoomanypeopledecidethatthisisnotforthemandreturnsthecattotheshelter.worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingRejectionisaveryharshpunishmentforthecatjustbecauseyoudidn’ttakethetimetothinkaboutwhatsortofcatwouldbetherightpetforyourfamily.Anoldercatwillalsobelessdemandingofyourtimethanakittenandwillrequirelesssupervision,wellafterthefirstfewweeksanyway.worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingTheywillbeabletospendtimealonewhenyouareoutofthehousewithoutgettingintotoomuchtroubleandhopefullywillalreadybelittertrained.Therearealsomanybenefitsforolderownersinadoptinganadultcat.Adultcatsaremuchcalmerandmorelikelytowanttospendsomequiettimesittingonyourlapforstrokesandpurring.worldofwarcraftgoldworldofwarcraftgoldStudieshaveshownthatcatscanhavearealhealthbenefitforhumansinreducingtheirstresslevelsandbloodpressure.Ican’timageanenergeticcuriouskittenbeingasgoodforyourstresslevelssomehow.Manyworryabouthealthproblemsandvetbillsfortheoldercat.Usuallywhenyouareadoptingacatfromananimalsheltertheywillbeabletoletyouknowifthecathasanyunderliningmedicalconditionsandwhatitislikelytocost.worldofwarcraftgoldManywillevenprovideyouwithfreemedicaltreatmentforyourcatiftheyover10yearsoldasanincentiveformoreoftheoldercatstobere-homed.Catscanlivewellintotheirlateteensandevenearlytwentieswithalltheadvancesinfoodnutritionandmedicaltreatments.worldofwarcraftgoldRunescapemoneySothat12yearoldcatwaitingintheanimalshelterforagoodhomeisstillagoodbetandwillstillbeabletoprovideyouwithmanyyearsoffunandlove.Ourowncatisnow14yearsoldandstillbehaveslikeaplayfulyoungsterandkeepsusentertainedforhours.Itcanbeaveryrewardingexperiencetoadoptanoldercat,RunescapemoneyRunescapemoneynotonlybecauseofthepleasuretheywillgiveyouovertheyearsbutalsointheknowledgethatyouhaveprovidedalovinghomeforwhatwasprobablyaveryfrightenedandconfusedcat,whohadnoideawhyhehadlosthisfamily.RELATEDLINKS:http://dshowgirl.hollywood-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.phoenix-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.line-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.gb-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.dreams-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.weblog-host.com/http://dshowgirl.yahoo-host.com/http://dshowgirl.msn-host.com/http://dshowgirl.google-host.com/http://dshowgirl.zero-host.com/http://dshowgirl.money-host.com/http://san1.gotfamiliesonline.com/control-panel/events/1http://dshowgirl.exclusive-host.com/http://san.gotfamiliesonline.com/control-panel/event-addedhttp://dshowgirl.bbs-host.com/http://dshowgirl.genius-host.com/http://www.freewebs.com/dshowgirl/someadviceaboutlife.htmhttp://dshowgirl.bigblogzoo.com/http://www.bahraichblogs.com/dshowgirl/http://www.bloggeo.org/dshowgirl/http://blogpirates.com/blog/index.php?user=dshowgirlhttp://bloggercrab.com/blogs/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.bloggles.info/http://dshowgirl.outblogger.com/http://dshowgirl.blogsarena.com/http://www.blogmyway.org/?w=dshowgirlhttp://www.bloglegion.com/dshowgirl/http://blogsofroleplay.com/http://anyonesblog.com/wp-newblog.phphttp://blogsharing.com/?p=1#comment-1956http://dshowgirl.blogstream.com/http://dshowgirl.iblog365.com/http://www.egoweblog.com/admin.phphttp://dshowgirl.efx2.com/http://www.bloty.com/users/dshowgirlhttp://www.electricdiary.com/diarybrowser.aspx?DiaryID=2559&sEntry=7/18/2007&eEntry=7/18/2007http://ez7.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.freeflux.net/blog/http://oppertunity-land.fresh-blogs.com/http://dshowgirl.thegroundunder.com/http://dshowgirl.hwyblogs.com/https://dshowgirl.iuplog.com/default.asphttp://www.jsector.com/dshowgirl/http://journals.jevon.org/users/dsh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2007-11-16 16:19:41 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=12 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=12#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=11 HiParents,Howwouldyouliketohaveacloserrelationshipwithyourteenagain?Yourabilitytocommunicateeffectivelywithyourteenisoneofthemostpreciousskillsyoucandeveloptoachievethisgoal.Whenwethinkofcommunication,wetendtothinkonlyofthewaywecanexpressourselves.Whilethatiscertainlyimportant,listeningisthesinglemostcrucialofallcommunicationskills.Asamotheroftwoteenageboys,Iknowthatitisn'talwayseasytocommunicatewellwithyourteen.It'sparticularlyfrustratingwhentheyaren'ttalkingtoyou.However,whenIstartedapplyingthesetechniquestoourlives,Ifoundthatwestartedgettingalongbetteralmostimmediately.wowgoldwowgoldWithlessarguingbetweenus,ourrelationshipbecamestronger.1.MakeYourTeenYourFocusGiveyourteensyourfullattention.Iknowthatthisisatoughie,becausewetendtobesobusy.Itseemsasifwearealwaysmulti-tasking.However,itisimportantinclearcommunicatingthatyoumakeapointofstoppingwhatyouaredoingandreallylistentoyourteens(ratherthanjusthearinghim).wowgoldWhenyougiveyourteensyourundividedattention,theywillknowthatyoucare,becauseyoutookthetimetolisten,therebyincreasingthechancesthattheywilllistentoyou.2.GettheDetailsHearwhatyourteenisreallysaying!Teenstendtogiveterseanswerstoquestions,wowgoldleavingoutdetailsthatmaybeimportant.It'suptoyoutobeabletogetthemtoopenupanddrawthemintoaconversation.Hereisanexample:Teen:"Ihatemyteacher!"Parent:"Oh,youdon'treallymeanthat!"Teen:"Yes,Ido.Idoublehatehim!"Parent:"Well,Idon'twanttohearthatkindoftalk.Iamsureyoudon'treallyhatehim!"wowgoldTeen:"Yes,Idoso.Ihateallteachers!"Parent:"Doyouthinkhatingyourteachersisgoingtogetyouagoodmark?"Andonandonthearguinggoes….Here’sanalternative:Teen:"Ihatemyteacher!"Parent:"Wow,WorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingWorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingyoudon'tnormallyhateanybody.Whatdidhedotogetyoutalkinglikethat?"Teen:"Acoupleofkidsdidn'thavetheirhomeworkfinishedagaintoday,sohedecidedtopunishallofusbygivingusamathtesttomorrow!"Parent:"Thatdoesn'tsoundveryfair!"Teen:"No,itisn'tfairatall.IwantedtogoovertoRachel'stonighttohangoutandlistentomusic.InsteadIhavetostudyforthatstupidtest.Iamsomadatmyteacher!Heruinseverything!"Parent:(Justlistening.)Thisteenwasabletoexpressherself,andshefeltvalidatedbyherparent.Youwillnoticethattheparentdidn'targueaboutthefeelingstheteenhad.Theparentlistenedandwasnotjudgmental.Youdon'thavetoagreewithyourteen’sfeelings.WorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingYouonlyneedtoacknowledgethem.Thereisnosuchthingasawrongfeeling.Wecan’thelpwhatourteensmayfeel.Weshouldsetlimits,however,onbehaviorsthatdon’tconformtowhatweconsidertobeappropriatebehavior.Expressingone'sfeelingsisahealthything;althoughnegativeexpressionsofone’sfeelingsshouldbeavoided,WorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingsuchasscreamingornamecalling.Agoodwaytoavoidthisisusingtime-outs--waitandcontinuetheconversationwheneverybodyhascalmeddown.3.Open-EndedQuestionsQuestionscanbecrucialtocommunicatingwithyourteens.Askquestionsthattheycan'tanswerwithonlyayesorano.Forexampleintheabovescenariotheparentcouldasktheteen,"Whatcouldyoudotohelpyourteacherchangehismindaboutthetest?"Teen:"Iamnotsure.Thisguyissostubborn!"Parent:"Whatifyoutalktohimandcomeupwithbetterwaysforhimtodealwiththekidsthataren'tdoingtheirhomework?"Teen:"Mmhhh,maybeIcouldgiveitatry."4.CriticizeBehavior,NotYourTeenMovingfromthelisteningtothetalkingpartofcommunication,yourfocusshifts.Whenyouwanttoseeachangeinyourteens’behavior,usingthefollowingstructurecanbeveryhelpful.“Whenyou______,Ifeel______,becauseIneed______.”Thiswording(knownas“I“message)doesn'tattackyourteens’personality.Insteaditmerelytalksaboutanactionoftheirsthatyou'dliketochangeandwhy.Hereisascenarioyoumightrelateto:WorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingThechoreswerenotdone.Yourteenwentoutinstead.Thisexampledoesnotshowthebestwayofcommunicating.Itisapersonalattackandmakesstatementsyoumaynotsticktoanyway.Parent:"Youdidn'tdoyourchores!Youaresuchalazyslob!Youneverdoyourchores,andIalwayshavetodothemforyou.WorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingNexttimeyoudon'tdothem,Iamgoingtogroundyouforaweek!Teen:(Feelsprettylousy.)Nowhereisanexampleusingthe“I”technique:Parent:"Whenyoudidn'tdoyourchoresbeforegoingout,Ifeltreallymad.Wehadanagreementaboutchoresbeingdonebeforegoingout,andIneedyoutodoyourpartofthechores,orIamstuckdoingthemforyou.”Teen:(Thinking.)“Iguessthatmakessense.”Rememberwhenyoustartasentencewith“Youaresuchandsuch,”youaren’tcommunicating.Youarecriticizing!5.LettheConsequenceFittheActionAfairlybigproblemthatparentsrunintoislookingforsuitablepunishmentforbrokenrules.wowpowerlevelingHowever,thepenaltyappliedusuallyisn'trelatedtotheteens’action.Asparents,weneedtoshowourteensthateachchoicetheymakehasconsequences,butthedisciplineneedstobeappropriate.Parentstendtopunishtheirteensbytakingawaysomethingtheadolescentenjoys,WorldOfWarcraftpowerlevelingforexamplenoTVforaweek.Let’staketheearlierexampleofthechoresnotbeingdone,suchasthelaundryleftinaheap.Itwouldbemorebeneficialtothedevelopmentofyourteenifyoubasethepenaltyonanaturalconnectionbetweenhisactionandthepunishment.Agoodwayofshowingtheconsequencestohisactioninthisinstancewouldbehavinghimdoyourlaundryaswellashisnexttime,worldofwarcraftpowerlevelingsinceyouhadtodohisthistime.Whenfollowingsuchastep,youarepracticing"silentcommunication".Thismeanslettinghimexperiencethenaturalconsequencesofhisactions.Thistechniquespeakslouderthananywordsevercould.Itillustratestoallpeoplethattheywillbeheldaccountableforwhattheydo.Astheygrow,teenstendtoreceivemoreprivilegesfromparents.Itisimportantforthemtorealizethatmoreresponsibilitygoesalongwiththeextrafreedom.6.UsingDescriptivePraiseWeallpraiseourteensometimes.Wetellthem,"Youareasmartkid.”Perhapsyoumightsay,"Youareagoodpianoplayer.”Wemeanwell,butunfortunatelythiskindofpraisedoesn'tbringthedesiredeffectofmakingyourteenfeelgoodabouthimself.wowpowerlevelingWhyisthat?Itisbecausewhatwearedoingisevaluatingtheiractions.Withthistypeofpraise,wearen’tgivingevidencetosupportourclaims,andthismakesthepraisefallflatandseememptyandunconvincing.Weneedtodescribeindetailwhattheyaredoing.Asyourteenrecognizesthetruthinyourwords,hecanthenevaluatehisactionsandcredithimselfwherehefeelsthepraisehasmerit.Hereisanexamplewithevaluatingpraise:Teen:"Hey,Ma,Igota90onmygeometrytest!"Parent:"Fantastic!Youareagenius!"Teen:(Thinking)"Iwish.Ionlygotit'causePaulhelpedmestudy.Heisthegenius."Hereisanexamplewithdescriptivepraise:Teen:"Hey,Ma,Igota90onmygeometrytest!"Parent:"Youmustbesopleased.Youdidalotofstudyingforthattest!"Teen:(Thinking)"IcanreallydogeometrywhenIworkatit!"Describingyourteens’actionratherthenevaluatingthemwithaneasy"good"or"great"orlabelingthemwith"slowlearner"or"scatterbrain"isn'teasytodoatfirst,becauseweareallunaccustomedtodoingthat.However,wowpowerlevelingonceyougetintothehabitoflookingcarefullyatyourteen'sactionandputtingintowordswhatyousee,youwilldoitmoreandmoreeasilyandwithgrowingpleasure.Adolescentsneedthekindofemotionalnourishmentthatwillhelpthembecomeindependent,creativethinkersanddoers,wowpowerlevelingwhoaren'tlookingtoothersforapprovalallthetime.Withthissortofpraise,teenswilltrustthemselves,andtheywon’tneedeverybodyelse'sopiniontotellthemhowtheyaredoing.Anotherchallengingproblemconcernswhenandhowwecriticizeourteens.Insteadofpointingoutwhat'swrongwithyourteen’sactions,wowpowerlevelingtrydescribingwhatisrightfollowedbywhatstillneedsdoing.Example:Yourteenhasn'tdonehislaundryyet.Parent:"Howisthelaundrycoming?Teen:"Iamworkingonit."Parent:"Iseethatyoupickedupyourclothesinyourroomandinthefamilyroomandputitinthehamper.Youarehalfwaythere."Thisparenttalkswithencouragement,wowpowerlevelingacknowledgingwhathasbeendonesofar,ratherthenpointingoutwhathasn'tbeendoneyet.Formorehelpfulinformationandexamplesongoodcommunicationwithyourchild,IhighlyrecommendabookbyAdeleFaber&ElaineMazlishcalledHowtoTalkSoKidsWillListenandListenSoTheyWillTalk,publishedbyHarper,ISBN0380811960.There’sateenversionofthebookcalledHowtoTalksoTeensWillListen,ISBN0060741252."Parentsneedtofillachild'sbucketofself-esteemsohighthattherestoftheworldcan'tpokeenoughholesinittodrainitdry."-AlvinPriceAnothergreatplacetofindstoriesthatsupportandencourageyourTeenisintheChickenSoupfortheTeenageSoulbookseriesauthoredbyMarkVictorHansenandDebbieReber.!RELATEDLINKS:https://www.blogware.com/admin/index.cgihttp://www.my-diary.org/edit/?action=viewentry&entryid=541158576http://geocities.com/zhngyiyi/blog.htmlhttp://clearblogs.com/dshowgina/http://journals.aol.com/dshowgina/special-space/http://www.ndtvblogs.com/user/myblogs.asp?gl_guid=FFA09609-1465-47B3-8FA1-1D97DD96ED6D&ways=Y&ref=7/13/2007%209:03:26%20AMhttp://www.hyperblogs.net/dshowgirl/http://lovelygina.phoenix-blog.com/http://lovelygina.line-blog.com/http://lovelygina.gb-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.all-blogs.org/http://www.iseekblog.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blogspress.net/http://dshowgirl.blogdes.com/http://www.my-journal.com/oppertunitylandhttp://www.opendiary.com/entrylist.asp?authorcode=D724266http://webdiary.com.au/cms/?q=user/871&PHPSESSID=163ef7d3a2e4f3a0d876c0f04cf6ce71http://www.diaryproject.com/entries/?-5http://www.randomaccessmemory.org/ramcore.cfm?action=signinhttp://www.deardiary.net/secure/viewer.pl?diary=153642&view=newesthttp://lovelygina.dream-blog.com/http://lovelygina.press-blog.com/http://www.melodramatic.com/users/dshowgirl/publichttp://dshowgirl.psychcentral.net/http://samcity.com/cgi-bin/v2/diary.cgihttp://www.124diary.com/mydiary/http://www.drphil.com/diaries/my/http://www.wordcountjournal.com/journalshttp://www.hellocw.com/MyDiary/Default.aspxhttp://privatejournals.com/p/members/Edit_Entry.phphttp://www.dailydiary.com/welcome.phtml?backurl=%2Fhome%2Fme&impid=http://www.blogcosmo.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blog.spiritproject.com/http://www.cooeey.com/default.asphttp://www.mydiem.com:8080/mydiem/control/executeCreateBookhttp://www.netfriendships.com//blogsetting/main.cfm?uCF=&buddy_id=124350http://elephants.switch-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.switch-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.easyfreeblog.com/http://lovelygina.owntheblog.com/http://dshowgirl.dream-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.press-blog.com/ 2007-11-16 16:19:13 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=11 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=11#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=10 Itcanbeagreatinvestmenttoanyhomebyinstallingwoodenfloors,whetheryouhavenewfloorboardslaid,haveoldonesrenovatedorwhetheryouhavelaminateflooring.wowpowerlevelingIthelpstoaddwarmth,characterandpersonalitytoanyroomthatitisinbutdependinguponwhatoptionyoutake,itcancostalotofmoney.Thatiswhylookingafterthewoodenflooringinyourhomeisextremelyimportant.Byensuringthattheyareproperlycaredfor,theywilllookasgoodaspossibleforaslongaspossible.Accidentshappenallofthetimewhetheryoudropsomesauceorotherfoodontothefloor,orifyouspillsomewateronitandforgettomopitup.wowpowerlevelingThingseasilyhappenandwithoutsortingitout,itcaneventuallyturnintoaproblemforyourwoodenfloors.wowpowerlevelingThereasonisdirtandgrimemaynotseemlikeaproblem,butifitisleftitcancausemarks,scuffsandscratchesbecauseitcouldgetdraggedaround.wowpowerlevelingApplyingProperWoodCareTechniquestoYourWoodenFloorsIfthingsarespilledontothefloorthenthereisnoproblemusually,dependinguponwhatitis.Moststainsareeasyenoughtogetout,wowpowerlevelingwhilstothersmayneedabitmoreworkandbecauseofthisitwilldeterminewhattypeofproductyouwillneedtouse.wowpowerlevelingHoweversomethingthatyouneedtodoistofindoutwhatwoodcareproductsyoucangettohelptocleanyourfloor.Notallproductswillbesafetouseandwithoutfindingthisoutyoucouldeasilycausedamagetothefloor.Todeterminewhatproductyouwillneedwilldependentirelyuponwhattypeoffinishisontheflooring.Onetypeofwoodfinishwouldbeeithervarnishorshellac,whichismainlyusedinolderfloors.Ifyouhaveavarnishorshellacfinishthenyoujustneedasimpledustmopaswellasregularlysweepingandvacuumingup.wowpowerlevelingIfyoudohaveanyspillsyoushouldtryandmopthemupassoonaspossible.Byapplyingthissimpleformofcleaningthenyouareprotectingthefloorasmuchaspossiblebygivingitthepropercarethatitneeds.Somethingthatyouneedtokeepinmindonmostwoodenfloorsisnottouseasoakingwetmopasthiscaneasilycauseseriousdamagetothewood.wowpowerlevelingItcancausediscolorationaswellasmaybecausingthewoodtowarp,sothatiswhyitisnotagoodideatouseawetmop.Overallbytakingthetimetofindoutaboutwhattypeoffinishisonthewoodandbytakingextracare,wowpowerlevelingyoucanensurethatthefloorsarekeptingoodcondition.Itisnothardtolookafteryourflooringandyoushouldfindthatitwilllookasgoodasnewforyearstocomeifyougiveitthepropercarewhichitdeserves.wowpowerlevelingRELATEDLINKS:https://www.blogware.com/admin/index.cgihttp://www.my-diary.org/edit/?action=viewentry&entryid=541158576http://geocities.com/zhngyiyi/blog.htmlhttp://clearblogs.com/dshowgina/http://journals.aol.com/dshowgina/special-space/http://www.ndtvblogs.com/user/myblogs.asp?gl_guid=FFA09609-1465-47B3-8FA1-1D97DD96ED6D&ways=Y&ref=7/13/2007%209:03:26%20AMhttp://www.hyperblogs.net/dshowgirl/http://lovelygina.phoenix-blog.com/http://lovelygina.line-blog.com/http://lovelygina.gb-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.all-blogs.org/http://www.iseekblog.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blogspress.net/http://dshowgirl.blogdes.com/http://www.my-journal.com/oppertunitylandhttp://www.opendiary.com/entrylist.asp?authorcode=D724266http://webdiary.com.au/cms/?q=user/871&PHPSESSID=163ef7d3a2e4f3a0d876c0f04cf6ce71http://www.diaryproject.com/entries/?-5http://www.randomaccessmemory.org/ramcore.cfm?action=signinhttp://www.deardiary.net/secure/viewer.pl?diary=153642&view=newesthttp://lovelygina.dream-blog.com/http://lovelygina.press-blog.com/http://www.melodramatic.com/users/dshowgirl/publichttp://dshowgirl.psychcentral.net/http://samcity.com/cgi-bin/v2/diary.cgihttp://www.124diary.com/mydiary/http://www.drphil.com/diaries/my/http://www.wordcountjournal.com/journalshttp://www.hellocw.com/MyDiary/Default.aspxhttp://privatejournals.com/p/members/Edit_Entry.phphttp://www.dailydiary.com/welcome.phtml?backurl=%2Fhome%2Fme&impid=http://www.blogcosmo.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blog.spiritproject.com/http://www.cooeey.com/default.asphttp://www.mydiem.com:8080/mydiem/control/executeCreateBookhttp://www.netfriendships.com//blogsetting/main.cfm?uCF=&buddy_id=124350http://elephants.switch-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.switch-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.easyfreeblog.com/http://lovelygina.owntheblog.com/http://dshowgirl.dream-blog.com/http://dshowgirl.press-blog.com/ 2007-11-16 16:18:39 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=10 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=10#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=9 Astorytouchesmyheart:MydreamendedwhenIwasborn.AlthoughIneverknewitthen,Ijustheldontosomethingthatwouldnevercometopass.Dreamsreallydoexist.Butinthemorningwhenyouwakeup,theyarerememberedjustasadream.Thatiswhathappenedtome.Ialwayshavethedreamtodancelikeabeautifulballerinatwirlingaroundandaroundandhearingpeopleapplaudforme.WhenIwasyoung,Iwouldtwirlingaroundandaroundinthefieldsofwildflowersthatgrewinmybackyard.ForhoursIwoulddanceasifpeoplewerewatchingme.IwoulddancesofastthatIwouldforgetwhereIwas,untilIwouldhearsoundsthatremindedmeofwhereIreallywas.IthoughtthatifItwirledfastereverythingwoulddisappearandIwouldwakeupinanewplace.RealitywokemeupwhenIheardavoicesaying,"Idon'tknowwhyyoubothertryingtodance.Ballerinasarepretty,slenderlittlegirls.Besides,youdon'thavethetalenttoevenbeaballerina."Irememberhowthosewordsparalyzedeveryfeelinginmybody.Ifeeltothegroundandweptforhours.WelivedinthecountrybyanearbylakeandIwouldsometimesgotheretohide.MyparentswereneverhomeanywayandIdidnotliketobeathomewhereIcouldhearthewallstalkingofpain.Whentheywerehome,mymotherjustyelledandcriticizedbecausenothingwaseverperfectinherlife.Shedreamedofadifferentlifebutendeduplivinginacountryfarawayfromthecitywhereshebelievedherdreamswouldhavecometrue.Ienjoyedhangingoutbythewater.Iwouldsitthereforhoursandstareatmyreflection.ThereIwas,lookednothinglikeaprettyballerinadancer.Reflectionsdon'tlie.Oncethewaveswouldcome,myreflectionwasgone.Washedawayjustlikemydreamtodance.Isattherestaringatthewater,hopingthatmyreflectionwouldreappearandbedifferent.AsIgrewolder,Ibegantorealizethatthereasonmydreamwasevenborninthefirstplace,wasbecauseitwassomethingthatwasinsideofme.ThedreamIhadwasnevernurturedandcaredfor,soitslowlydied.It'snotthatIwantedittodie,butIallowedittodiethedayIstartedlisteningtothewords,"Youcan'tdoit."WhenIfinallywokeupfrommanyyearsofdreaming,Irealizedthatyoucan'tsettlefordancinginthewildflowers,youhavetomoveontotheplatform.Istillgotothelakesometimesandsitthere.Lookingatmyreflectionisdifferentnowtoo.WhenIwasyoung,Ilookedathowotherssawme,nowthatIamolderandwiser;IlookathowGodseesme.糖尿病货架货架保洁门禁门禁衬衫T恤衬衣男士衬衫google优化google左侧排名google排名google排名google排名google优化google优化google左侧排名google左侧排名RELATEDLINKS:http://dshowgirl.sblogsite.com/http://dshowgina.createblog.com/blog/http://mytypes.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.mynewblog.com/http://dshowgirl.bloggerarea.com/http://www.scienceblog.com/cms/blog/dshowgirlhttp://www.bahraichblogs.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blogsboom.com/http://www.bloglines.com/blog/dshowgirl/http://www.bloglines.com/myblogs?mode=2http://dshowgirl.iblog.co.nz/blogs/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blogyx.com/http://www.blogger.com/posts.g?blogID=770667000464456722http://www.commonblog.com/user/dshowgirlhttp://oppertunityland.drunkmenworkhere.org/http://blog.drupal.ro/user/1582http://www.aeonity.com/usercp.php?action=blog-addedhttp://dailyscare.com/1669/wow-cheapest-and-most-professional-wow-gold-is-herehttp://dshowgirl.statesmanblogs.comhttp://www.motime.com/myblog/edit/post/33559http://indiblog.com/media/blog/562http://www.paulobrien.net/user/dshowgirlhttp://www.hyespace.com/index.php?file=m-addmemberhttp://www.itskeptic.org/user/253http://www.journalhome.com/signup.phphttp://dshowgirl.bloghost.ro/http://www.toughblogware.com/blog_signup/blog_signup_formail/free_blog_signup.htmlhttp://dshowgina.wordpress.com/http://dshowgirl.blog-city.com/http://dshowgirl.spaces.live.com/blog/?_c02_owner=1http://www.dejal.com/forums/2007/07/04/wow-cheapest-and-most-professional-wow-gold-herehttp://dshowgirl.blogspot.comhttp://yeff.net/blog/dshowgirlhttp://blogs.rakista.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.my-dog-blog.com/http://panel.blog.com/http://realtravel.com/member-m4977657-dshowgirl.htmlhttp://www.travelpod.com/members/dshowgirlhttp://www.travelogue-blog.com/admin.php?op=editPostshttp://whatshottoday.com/index.php?option=com_mamblog&task=edit&Itemid=261http://geocities.com/dshowgina/index.htmlhttp://www.myownjournal.com/bmsg.phphttp://dshowgirl.sampasite.com/http://blog.thestar.com.my/mystar/allposts.asphttp://dshowgirl.wetpaint.com/http://www.candconline.org/?q=blog/165http://www.mybloglog.com/buzz/members/dshowgina/http://www.bloglines.com/myblogshttp://dshowgirl.weblog.ro/http://www.bloopdiary.com/viewfront.php?id=77807 2007-11-16 16:17:57 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=9 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=9#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=8 Ablogisanonlineversionofdiarywherepeoplewriteanddisplayalmostanything-theiropinions,photos,jokes,thoughtsforthedayandmore.Peoplealsosharestoriesabouttheirpets,theirpassionforsoccer,stamps...thelimitisonlyyourimagination!Inthelastfewyears,blogginghasemergedtobecomeamuchmoremeaningfulactivitythansimplymaintainingapersonaldiary.Peopleuseittoadvertisetheirproductsandservices,infact,quiteanumberofcompaniesevencreatetheironlinepresencebyusingabloginsteadofawebsite.CreateYourOwnBlogStartingablogisfree.Youcancreateoneathttp://www.blogger.com-afreeservicefromGoogleInc.Youdon'tneedtoregisteradomainnameorbuyhosting.WhenyousignupatBlogger,everythinghappensonline.YourblogwillbehostedbyBloggerandyougetanURLlikehttp://yourdomain.blogspot.com.Yousimplylogintoyouraccountandstarttowrite.Thisismucheasierandcheaperthanbuyingyourowndomainandhosting,thenhiringsomeonetodothewebdesign,writingandcoding.云南旅游四川旅游拓展训练摄影相册AnotherfreebloggingserviceavailableonlineisWordPresswhichisalsoverypopularandeasytouse.WordPresssupportsmorefeaturesthanBloggerwhileallowingyoutocustomizeyourblogwithvariousplug-in.Youcancheckitoutathttp://wordpress.org.特价机票特价机票机票国际机票国际机票国际机票MonetizeYourBlogWhilebloggingforyourowninterest,youcaninfactmaximizethepotentialofyourblogformanymarketingorcommercialpurposes.Thequickestandeasiestwaytoturnablogintoamoney-makingenterpriseistoincludeadvertisingonyourblog.ThiscanbedonewithcontextualadprogramslikeAdsense-anadvertisingprogrambyGoogle.Basically,yougetpaidwhenpeopleclickontheadsdisplayedonyourwebsiteorblog.GoogleAdsenseprogramisfreetosignup.Youcanvisithttp://www.google.com/adsensetolearnmoreabouttherulesandguidelinesoftheprogram.OtherAdsensetypeadsthatyoucanuseforblogmonetizingareSearchFeed,AdBrite,andYahoo'sPublisher’sNetwork(YPN).Affiliateprogramisanotherpotentialwaytomakemoneyblogging.Byfocusingonthesubjectofyourblogpost,youcanpromoterelevantproductsfromcostpersaleaffiliateprogramslikeClickBankandAmazon.Youcanwriteareviewabouttheproductorservicewithyouraffiliatelinksembeddedinsidesoyougetthecommissionwheneverasaleismade.翻译公司翻译公司翻译公司翻译公司管理咨询BoostYourBlogTrafficBlogsarequicklyindexedbysearchengines,butyouneedtoupdateitregularly.Searchengineslovefreshcontentandregularupdatewillensurethatyourwebsiteisindexedandrankedhighupaswell.Thehigherupitappears,themoretrafficwillcometoyoursite,whichmeansmoresales.Youcanactivelyparticipateinforumsdiscussionorpostcommentsonotherblogstogetmorelinkbacktraffic.Whetheryouuseyourblogforfunorforwork,rememberthatit’sahighlypotentialtoolanywhichway.Sowhatareyouwaitingfor?Startbloggingawayrightnow!传奇私服视频会议律师事务所RELATEDLINKS:http://dshowgirl.sblogsite.com/http://dshowgina.createblog.com/blog/http://mytypes.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.mynewblog.com/http://dshowgirl.bloggerarea.com/http://www.scienceblog.com/cms/blog/dshowgirlhttp://www.bahraichblogs.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blogsboom.com/http://www.bloglines.com/blog/dshowgirl/http://www.bloglines.com/myblogs?mode=2http://dshowgirl.iblog.co.nz/blogs/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.blogyx.com/http://www.blogger.com/posts.g?blogID=770667000464456722http://www.commonblog.com/user/dshowgirlhttp://oppertunityland.drunkmenworkhere.org/http://blog.drupal.ro/user/1582http://www.aeonity.com/usercp.php?action=blog-addedhttp://dailyscare.com/1669/wow-cheapest-and-most-professional-wow-gold-is-herehttp://dshowgirl.statesmanblogs.comhttp://www.motime.com/myblog/edit/post/33559http://indiblog.com/media/blog/562http://www.paulobrien.net/user/dshowgirlhttp://www.hyespace.com/index.php?file=m-addmemberhttp://www.itskeptic.org/user/253http://www.journalhome.com/signup.phphttp://dshowgirl.bloghost.ro/http://www.toughblogware.com/blog_signup/blog_signup_formail/free_blog_signup.htmlhttp://dshowgina.wordpress.com/http://dshowgirl.blog-city.com/http://dshowgirl.spaces.live.com/blog/?_c02_owner=1http://www.dejal.com/forums/2007/07/04/wow-cheapest-and-most-professional-wow-gold-herehttp://dshowgirl.blogspot.comhttp://yeff.net/blog/dshowgirlhttp://blogs.rakista.com/dshowgirl/http://dshowgirl.my-dog-blog.com/http://panel.blog.com/http://realtravel.com/member-m4977657-dshowgirl.htmlhttp://www.travelpod.com/members/dshowgirlhttp://www.travelogue-blog.com/admin.php?op=editPostshttp://whatshottoday.com/index.php?option=com_mamblog&task=edit&Itemid=261http://geocities.com/dshowgina/index.htmlhttp://www.myownjournal.com/bmsg.phphttp://dshowgirl.sampasite.com/http://blog.thestar.com.my/mystar/allposts.asphttp://dshowgirl.wetpaint.com/http://www.candconline.org/?q=blog/165http://www.mybloglog.com/buzz/members/dshowgina/http://www.bloglines.com/myblogshttp://dshowgirl.weblog.ro/http://www.bloopdiary.com/viewfront.php?id=77807 2007-11-16 16:15:35 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=8 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=8#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=7 Ihaveafriendwhoisfallinginlove.Shehonestlyclaimstheskyisbluer.Mozartmoveshertotears.Shehaslost15poundsandlookslikeacovergirl."I'myoungagain!"sheshoutsexuberantly.Asmyfriendravesonabouthernewlove,I'vetakenagoodlookatmyoldone.Myhusbandofalmost20years,Scott,hasgained15pounds.Onceamarathonrunner,henowrunsonlydownhospitalhalls.Hishairlineisrecedingandhisbodyshowsthesignsoflongworkinghoursandtoomanycandybars.YethecanstillgivemeacertainlookacrossarestauranttableandIwanttoaskforthecheckandheadhome.Whenmyfriendaskedme"Whatwillmakethislovelast?"Iranthroughalltheobviousreasons:commitment,sharedinterests,unselfishness,physicalattraction,communication.Yetthere'smore.Westillhavefun.Spontaneousgoodtimes.Yesterday,afterslippingtherubberbandofftherolledupnewspaper,Scottflippeditplayfullyatme:thisledtoanall-outwar.LastSaturdayatthegrocery,wesplitthelistandracedeachothertoseewhocouldmakeittothecheckoutfirst.Evenwashingdishescanbeablast.Weenjoysimplybeingtogether.Andtherearesurprises.OnetimeIcamehometofindanoteonthefrontdoorthatledmetoanothernote,thenanother,untilIreachedthewalk-incloset.IopenedthedoortofindScottholdinga"potofgold"(mycookingkettle)andthe"treasure"ofagiftpackage.SometimesIleavehimnotesonthemirrorandlittlepresentsunderhispillow.Thereisunderstanding.Iunderstandwhyhemustplaybasketballwiththeguys.Andheunderstandswhy,onceayear,Imustgetawayfromthehouse,thekids—andevenhim-tomeetmysistersforafewdaysofnonstoptalkingandlaughing.Thereissharing.Notonlydowesharehouseholdworriesandparentalburdens—wealsoshareideas.Scottcamehomefromaconventionlastmonthandpresentedmewithathickhistoricalnovel.Thoughheprefersthrillersandsciencefiction,hehadreadthenovelontheplane.HetouchedmyheartwhenheexplaineditwasbecausehewantedtobeabletoexchangeideasaboutthebookafterI'dreadit.Thereisforgiveness.WhenI'membarrassinglyloudandcrazyatparties,Scottforgivesme.Whenheconfessedlosingsomeofoursavingsinthestockmarket,Igavehimahugandsaid,"It'sokay.It'sonlymoney."Thereissensitivity.Lastweekhewalkedthroughthedoorwiththatlookthattellsmeit'sbeenatoughday.Afterhespentsometimewiththekids,Iaskedhimwhathappened.Hetoldmeabouta60-year-oldwomanwho'dhadastroke.Heweptasherecalledthewoman'shusbandstandingbesideherbed,caressingherhand.Howwashegoingtotellthishusbandof40yearsthathiswifewouldprobablyneverrecover?Ishedafewtearsmyself.Becauseofthemedicalcrisis.Becausetherewerestillpeoplewhohavebeenmarried40years.Becausemyhusbandisstillmovedandconcernedafteryearsofhospitalroomsanddyingpatients.Thereisfaith.LastTuesdayafriendcameoverandconfessedherfearthatherhusbandislosinghiscourageousbattlewithcancer.OnWednesdayIwenttolunchwithafriendwhoisstrugglingtoreshapeherlifeafterdivorce.OnThursdayaneighborcalledtotalkaboutthefrighteningeffectsofAlzheimer'sdiseaseonherfather-in-law'spersonality.OnFridayachildhoodfriendcalledlong-distancetotellmeherfatherhaddied.Ihungupthephoneandthought,Thisistoomuchheartacheforoneweek.Throughmytears,asIwentouttorunsomeerrands,Inoticedtheboisterousorangeblossomsofthegladiolusoutsidemywindow.Iheardthedelightedlaughterofmysonandhisfriendastheyplayed.Icaughtsightofaweddingpartyemergingfromaneighbor'shouse.Thebride,dressedinsatinandlace,tossedherbouquettohercheeringfriends.Thatnight,Itoldmyhusbandabouttheseevents.Wehelpedeachotheracknowledgethecyclesoflifeandthatthejoyscounterthesorrows.Itwasenoughtokeepusgoing.Finally,thereisknowing.IknowScottwillthrowhislaundryjustshyofthehampereverynight;he'llbelatetomostappointmentsandeatthelastchocolateinthebox.HeknowsthatIsleepwithapillowovermyhead;I'lllockusoutofthehouseataregularbasis,andIwillalsoeatthelastchocolate.Iguessourlovelastsbecauseitiscomfortable.No,theskyisnotbluer:it'sjustafamiliarhue.Wedon'tfeelparticularlyyoung:we'veexperiencedtoomuchthathascontributedtoourgrowthandwisdom,takingitstollonourbodies,andcreatedourmemories.Ihopewe'vegotwhatittakestomakeourlovelast.Asabride,IhadScott'sweddingbandengravedwithRobertBrowning'sline"Growoldalongwithme!"We'refollowingthoseinstructions.Ifanythingisreal,theheartwillmakeitplain. 2007-09-21 10:41:13 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=7 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=7#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=6 IamhelpingmymominpickingoutandbuyingBambooblindsandwashopingforsomeadviceondifferentmanufacturers.FirstwelookedatLevelorandBaliatthelocalhomestore.Forourwindowsthesearegoingtorunfrom$150to$200each.ThekidatLowessaidhehastheleastproblemswithLevelor,butBalicustomerserviceiseasiertodealwith.Iwouldprefernevertohavetotalktoeitherandwantthemtojustwork!:-)Meanwhileonlinemymomfoundafewplacesthatseemtoofferthesametypeofproduct,incustomsizes,forfarless.From$50to$80each.ThesecompaniesareBestBlinds(bestblinds.com),IslandBlinds(islandblinds.com)andTopBlinds(topblinds.com).abrasivesabrasivesabrasivewheelabrasivewheelDoesanyonehaveexperiencewithanyofthesecompaniesorBambooblindsingeneral?Ididsearchesoneachwith"opinion"and/or"review"anddidn'tfindanything.Iamwonderingsurgelightningifthereisahugedifferenceinqualityinthelowerpricedonlinesuppliers.Isittoogoodtobetrue,doyougetwhatyoupaidfor,orarethebignamesmakinguspayforalltheirmarketing?Thanksinadvancedanyonepassingbyandleaveareply.baseballhelmethockeyhelmetpipefittingsmouldMagiccubeMagiccube 2007-09-21 10:40:48 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=6 http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=6#comments http://blog.kobemonkeys.com/dshowgirl/index.php?type=1&entryId=5 So,howtosuccessfullynegotiatewithanagentorselleronthepropertyyouwant,andhowtogetitfortheprice(orasneartoit)thatyouwant.That’sthequestionnotonlymebutalsoyoufullyconcern.Sellingorbuyingahouseisrankedamongstoneofthemoststressfulthingsthatonewilldothroughouttheirlives.Thinkaboutit,youaretalkingaboutsomethingthatwillbewhereyourfamilymemoriesandpossiblymemberswillbebornandwillbearspecialmeaningtodifferentpeople.Needlesstosayitisanimmotivetimeatbest.stonecrusherRockcrusherIdonothavealltheanswers,no-onedoesasitwillvaryfrompropertytoproperty,andpersontoperson.WhatIcanofferhoweveraresometipsthatIhavepickedupandstillusefromthe8yearsIspentsatasabrokerinanestateagencyoffice.1)KnowYourBudgetSoundsobviousbuttherearebuyersouttheretodaywhohavenoideahowmuchitislikelytocostthemtobuyahome,orwhattheycanafford.Workoutwhatyouhavecomingin,andwhatyoucanaffordtospendeachmonthincludingallthehouseholdbills.2)KnowWhatYouCanBorrowAndIt'sCostThisgoeshandinhandwiththeabove.Ifyouaimatnothing,youwillhitnothing.Visitorspeaktoabrokertoestablishwhatyouareabletoborrow,howitworks,what'sinvolvedandhowthecostswillfitinwithyourmonthlyspendingbudget.Thisisthepointatwhichyouwillknowwhetheryourplansare,infact,do-able.3)GetTheFundingInPlaceIftakingamortgage,getanagreementinprincipleormortgagepromisefromthebroker.Thiswillbeinvaluablewhenyoucometoactuallybeginbiddingonapropertyasyouwillbetakenfarmoreseriouslybytheagentandsellerifyourfinanceshavealreadybeenagreed.Neverforgetthoughthatanagreementinprincipleisonlyasgoodastheinformationyouprovidetoobtainit.Behonestfromthestartanditwillproveworthwhile.Makesurethatyouhavethenecessaryfundsinplaceforthedeposit,mortgagefees(surveyetc)and,asIwillmoveonto,theLegalfees.crusherhammermillmill4)Get3solicitorsquotesanddecidewhichoneyouwilluseinpreparationGetatleast3solicitorsquotesbasedonthefiguresandbudgetworkedoutwithyourbroker.Ialwayssuggest1Localfirm,1Distantfirm,1onlineform.Seehowtheycomparebutrememberthatcheapisnotbest.Payingalittlemorecouldmakethedifferencebetweenaswifttroublefreetransaction,orhavingasolicitorwholeavesyourcasetill'tomorrow'.Ifyuhavethesolicitorfirminmind,itwillbenefityouagainwhenbidding.5)MakeYourselfKnownToTheAgentsCalltheagentsonaregularbasis.Onthedeskofeverydecentsalesnegotiatortherewillbeasmallindexcardboxcalledhis'hotbox'.Thisisalistofpeople,usuallyfirsttimebuyerswhoarelookingforpropertyandarereadytoproceed.Youraimistobeatthefrontofhis'hotbox'.Thisrequiresacertainamountofpersistanceonthepartofyouandyourbroker.Calltheagentsatleastonceifnottwiceaweek.Askifthereareanynewpropertiesontheirbooks,haveanysalesfallenthrough.Getyourbrokertocallandtelltheagentsthatyourmortgagehasbeenapproved(inprinciple)andyouarenowkeenlylookingtomoveASAP.Don'thoweverletyourbrokertelltheagentshowmuchyoucanafford.Keepthepressureontheagenttofindyousomewhere,oncetheyknowyouareseriousyouwillbethefirstonetogetacallwhentheyhaveanewinstruction..6)FindingThePropertyOnceyouhavefoundthepropertyyoulike,neverseemovereagertotheagentinitially.Viewitmorethanonceatdifferenttimesoftheday.Whatseemslikeaquietsuburbanstreetatmid-daycanbecomearushhourratrunat4.30.Thefirsttimeyouviewwillbewithyourheart,thesecondtimewillbewithyourwallet.Onthesecondviewingmakesureitisintheeveningaftertheagenthasclosed.Thiswillallowyoutobeunhurriedandhavethecurrentowneronhandtogethonestanswerstotheinevitablequestionsyouwillhave.Theremainderofthisbitis,Imafraid,downtoyouasyouaretheonlyonewhoknowswhatyouarelookingfor.7)PreOfferInformationBeforeconsideringwhattoofferyouneedtofindoutasmuchaboutthesituationoftheselleraspossible.Findoutiftheyhavefoundaproperty.Isthechainaboveyoucompleteandhowlongisit.Howstableisthechainandhowwellestablishedisit.Arethereanyotherviewingsbookedorotheroffersonthetable?Doyouthinkthereisanyworneedingdoingtoit?Armedwiththisinformationyouwillthenbeabletopresentyurofferinthebestpossiblelighttotheagentandseller.Afterallthenameofthegameisgivingthesellerwhathewants,andthatisallowinghimtomoveupwards.Itisnotalwaysaboutfinancesalone.conecrusherlanyard8)SubmittingTheOfferTherearemanydifferentschoolsofthoughtastohowmuchyoushouldofferonaproperty.Neverforgetthatthesellerwillhavealevelheneedstoachievetomakehismovepossible,andthathewillnothaveseenblisteringincreasesinthevalueofhisownproperty,whichwillreducetheavailableroomformaneuver.Thisiswhereipersonallytakeoverforthebuyerandbeginsubmittingofferstotheagentontheirbehalf.Theoffermustbepresentedconfidentlyandwithsupportinginformation.Example:"Mr&Mrsxhavedecidedthattheproperty'x'istheonetheywishtopurchase.Theyhavetheirfundsinplacewiththemortgageagreedinprinciple,andareinapositiontoinstructasolicitorimmediatelyupontheofferbeingaccepted.Theyareinanexcellentpositionandcanclosethechainaboveandgetitmovingswiftly.Bearingthatinmindtheywishtooffer'x'subjecttothefollowingconditions.artemiaartemiaAllfutureandcurrentviewingsarecancelledThepropertyiswithdrawnfromtheopenmarketimmediatelyandtheyhaveexclusivityoveritThesoldboardgoesupwithin48hoursTheyreceiveweeklyupdatesontheprogressofthechain.Anexampleof'thenorm'wouldbesomethinglikeanaskingpriceof￡120,000withyouropeningoffersbeginningat￡105,000-￡108,000.9)KnowYourLimitAlwayskeepinmindtheamountyouarepreparedtopayfortheproperty.Increaseyouroffersbysmallincrementssay￡500-￡1000onavalueasabove.Theworsttheywillsayisno.Thisisthepointwhereitisactuallybettertoaskyourbrokertobidforyouastheyagentisthenlesslikelytotrytoplayany'games'toincreasetheprice.Ifyouareofferingyourselfitisbettertogointotheagencyofficeandplacetheofferinperson.Youarethenmorelikelytoactuallywitnesstheofferbeingputforwardtothesellerandtherewillbelesslikelyhoodformis-trust.Italsohelpsbuildrapportwiththeagent.Ifyouareseenbytheagentasserious,theywilltakeyouseriously.Ifyouovercomethepotentialproblemssuchascost,mortgageetcbeforeyouevenlook,againyouwillbeseenasseriousaboutbuying.Buildarelationshipwiththeagentwhoissellingthepropertyyouwishtobuy.Youwantyournametobeattheforefrontofhismindwhenheisonhiswaytovalueapropertysuitable.ThiswayyoumayevengettoviewitbeforeitgoestotheopenmarketWAGOTerminalblockOncetheofferisaccepteditisthendowntoyoutofulfillyoursideofthedeal.Instructthesolicitorwithoutdelayandgetyourbrokertosubmitthefullmortgageapplicationwithoutdelay.Agoodbroker/solicitorwillholdyourhanduntilthedayyoumovein.ThisisnotadefinitiveguideandIwilladdtoitwhenithinkofmoreideas.HoweverthebasicmodelissomethingthatIhaveusedwithallmyclientsandhas,untilnow,provedverysuccessful.leathersofaleathersofa 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